And may the Lord our God show us his approval and make our efforts successful. Yes, make our efforts successful. Psalm 90:17
My Thoughts:
Good morning, Mother. I’ve been thinking about you a lot with the date of my book release approaching. You knew years ago when I started this journey I would dedicate this book to you. I hope you are pleased. Chapter 1 was hard for me to write and relive. I wish you had a Miss Louise to help us escape. But like most abused women during the 60’s you were all alone and on your own with five children. It blesses me that I started this novel about you, Mother. You anchored the rest of the story. I get the proof copy of “Broken Ten” next week, then publishing is not far behind. Let’s do this thing! I love you Mother. 🥰
Listen to my prayer, O God. Pay attention to my plea. Psalm 54:2
My Thoughts:
The last time I wrote a post, I confessed I had a calling from the Lord I neglected. I committed to Him and myself I would stop all work to fully complete that calling to finish writing my novel “Broken Ten” all the way through to publishing it.
For the record, allow me to clarify something. Finishing any writing is more than just typing the words ‘The End.’ It means a lot of things, starting with editing which I jumped into with zeal! Just when I thought I was finished, I talked to an editor and before I was allowed to hand over the manuscript for those professional edits, she emailed a ‘list’ and I ‘got to’ edit it even more. (Do you hear the sarcasm? Ha!)
When I finished those edits, I excitedly handed the manuscript over into her capable hands, and guess what? When I received the manuscript back–anticipating it would receive glowing remarks and a B+ rating–the marked up document caused my face to flush in embarrassment! Yikes! Although her comments were encouraging, there was a lot of work to be done and let’s just say I merited a much lower rating on the grading scale.
For days I sat and edited the document and those changes pinched my heart a little bit. Never mind she was spot on and the changes improved the novel exponentially. However, I am not going to lie, I had to walk away and take deep breaths a few times. Being the encourager my editor is, she also left encouraging remarks throughout the document and she assured me, every author feels the same.
This experience reminded me I need to work on my pride and humility. Being honest and no sarcasm intended.
Anyway, the day came when the fully edited manuscript dropped into my email and it is amazing. I mean really amazing! The flow is magical, the missed spots are filled, and the story is polished and ready for publishing. It was worth the pain! I feel convinced the adage “no pain, no gain” refers to the editing process!
Next, I connected with the publisher, Roaring Lambs, and their representative worked with me to find the perfect cover. Listen, after the painful edit process, every author needs this fun next step!
Here is my new book cover:
I love it so much!
This is where the blog stops as I still have work to do, but the publisher allowed me to take a quick break and share the cover. The anticipated release date of end of May/first of June and I will be back here as soon as it is releases to share that news with you. When it releases I hope you will also share it with your friends and family too.
My Prayer:
Father God, you have been so patient with me and I am grateful you chose me to share Your words. I apologize to You right now for any mistakes I made, and I am comforted with the knowledge you can use my failures to strengthen and grow me and bring glory to Yourself. I praise Your Holy name, Jesus. Amen.
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.” James 1:2-6 NIV
My Thoughts:
Did you see that? The word trials in the above verse is plural. Meaning trials might come in pairs or more!! {Groan!} I confess joy is not my initial-if ever-reaction for one trial, let alone multiple trials!
On my last blog, Training in the Trenches (https://tinyurl.com/y4hhhz6d), I filled you in on the trials and tribulations I faced for the last three years. I was strong and hopeful at first, but as the trials piled on, I began to fall apart on the inside, so I cried out to God.
I did not pitch a fit…, okay, okay, maybe I did here and there! But God can manage our questions and even our laments! However, God also wants us to get it off our chest then remember he is God. God can (and will!) use our brokenness and trials for our benefit and his glory. God is our foundation in times of trials.
“He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.” Psalms 40:2 NIV
You see, learning to have joy in the trenches really does take training (reading God’s word) and prayer. Repetitive prayers and reading God’s word strengthens us and eventually brings us to a solid foundation of joy.
In addition, God has ongoing plans for us and sitting in the pit crying and feeling sorry for ourselves is not on his agenda!
So up out of the pit I came, and as I trudged through the trials, I got back to work writing a specific story the Lord asked me to write long ago. I started the story at God’s initial calling, but the more I got into it, the more difficult it became. I cried out to God and begged him to give me something else to do, but his will for me to continue remained steadfast. {Sigh}
Although I did continue to write, I was not motivated, because I was tired from the battles, and I was lonely. You see, my husband had gone back to work after he learned he was in remission from cancer, which was absolutely a joyous occasion! But he had been my only ‘in person’ friend for almost three years!
Prior to Covid and cancer I met people here when we moved to our new city, but they were so new those relationships fizzled during the long isolation period of Covid and cancer.
(Disclaimer: this is NOT a judgment on anyone! The entire world was recovering and readjusting after a long and traumatizing pandemic! We were all trying to find our new normal and figure out how to proceed when it was finally safe!)
So, I prayed to God asking for a friend.
“Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.” Psalms 25:16 NIV
Don’t get me wrong, I still have friends from my old city who are dear to my heart, and precious siblings too, but most are not local or are working (I am retired). I desired a friend who was local, someone to have lunch or coffee with who was nearby and also retired.
Once I prayed, I knew sitting home alone in my chair would get me nowhere and only hinder God’s work, so I joined a new women’s Bible study at church, and it was there I met Janie. She was seated in front of me and when she turned to introduce herself and smiled, I knew in my heart she was a gift from the Lord.
As our friendship began to blossom, I eventually confessed I was not being obedient to God’s calling. To my surprise, she did not just say pleasant things and change the topic, she offered to walk with me to the completion of my project.
I have had encouragement to author this book from other friends, but there was something about this time that felt different. The work began and with Janie and my sister Terry’s encouragement, I produced and gave them chapters as accountability, until I finally reached a coveted milestone in every writer’s journey: typing The End.
Despite being a clumsy person, and not exactly in touch with my own limbs, I danced around the room! I am sure if my neighbors had witnessed this event though my windows, they would have been tempted to call 9-1-1 believing I was either being chased by a bee or having some sort of serious medical episode! I did not care!!
Following this lapse in decorum, I dropped to my knees and thanked God for all His provisions. I know beyond the shadow of a doubt God called me to author this novel, and he gave me the story and the words to write. When (not if, but when!) it is published it will be to the Lord’s credit and not mine.
If you are an author, or know an author, “The End” is really the beginning of more work to get published. It is worth it! I am excited despite knowing it could be six months to a year before it happens.
My goal is to publish this book through a traditional publicist, and not self-publish. For this to happen, I need followers and I hope you, dear readers, will help me accomplish this goal when my author website is up and running. My intent is not to inundate you with spam or share your personal information, but to keep you updated with the progress of my book. A publisher will want to know if I have followers (a lot of followers!) to launch this book prior to publication.
In addition, to updates, I plan to offer incentives and gifts as we wait for my book to be published. So, when the website is finished, I hope you,and all your friends 😃, will follow me.
I am sure by now you would like more information about my novel.
The name of my manuscript (it is not a book until it is published) is “Broken Ten.” It is a Christian fiction about a woman named Lydia who painstakingly fashions a tidy life to hide her sinful past, only to find God prompting her to reveal those secrets so she can offer hope to a group of desperate women.
When Lydia hears about these women, who are incarcerated, she has no interest in helping them as her own father was an abuser and eventually killed the woman who helped her family escape his cruelty.
Stay tuned to learn more!
Once my website is up, I will share snippets of “Broken Ten” and throughout the process will also offer a drawing for my previous book, “Going Home.”
Thank you for following along and I look forward to keeping you updated!
Prayer:
“Listen to my prayer, O God. Pay attention to my plea.” Psalms 54:2 NLT
Father God, I ask for your favor with this labor of love I finally finished. I pray you open the doors until “Broken Ten” is published and after reading, I pray lives are impacted to the glory of God. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen!
“If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” Matthew 21:22 NIV
My Thoughts:
Hello!!! I know it’s been…, well, a very long time since you’ve heard anything from me here! Yikes! I’m so sorry!
Life has been a challenge with the demands of caregiving for my Aunt in her final years, her death during COVID (!!), being the executor during COVID (have mercy!), my husband’s cancer (he is in remission, praise God!), and struggles with my own health (FINALLY received answers and the right treatment)! To say I have been overwhelmed might be an understatement!
When tempted to believe I might be the only one going through multiple trials, Jesus reminds me life will not be without challenges:
“I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 NLT
Yet, despite knowing this truth, I was still quietly undone by this steady stream of challenges.
For the most part, I am a stoic, one day at a time, focus hard on what you can control, kinda gal. Which doesn’t mean I don’t have meltdowns, I just try to limit them, which helps me stay strong in adversity. I guess you could say I like the safety of order and control…, a lot. But when staccato chaos happened, mixed with the insanity of Covid, I was unable to cling to the safety of any type of control and found myself on my knees in prayer, which is exactly what I needed. I clung to this truth:
“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5b NIV
Of course, nothing changed immediately. Oh, I wasn’t without hope (and begging!) for it all to end asap, but it has been about three years before everything was finally resolved. While this is good news, what is even greater news is my trust in the Lord has grown stronger.
Disclaimer: While my life verse is Proverbs 3:5-6…,
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV
… lessons in trust don’t exactly thrill me! Eek! What does thrill me, is seeing the promises in God’s word, come to fruition when I trust, obey, and lean hard into him believing he will do what he promises, whether in good times or bad.
“If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” Matthew 21:22 NIV
Prayer:
Father God, you are so very faithful, even when I am not, especially when I find myself in the pit surrounded by hard things. Thank you for the lessons, the answered prayers, and for helping me respond in obedience to your call, even in the hard times. In the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.” James 1:2-6 NIV
Stay tuned for more details about what I have been doing in the past three years!
Finn occasionally hijacks his Mom’s blog and today he decided to forego laying on the couch to share an important message with all of us. It is not only thought provoking, but has prompted me to create an action item. I hope it does for you too.
Book review for Jerry Jenkins latest book: “Dead Sea Conspiracy”–4 Stars
This is book two of Jerry Jenkins new series Dead Sea Chronicles. “Dead Sea Conspiracy” and book one (“Dead Sea Rising”) go back and forth between ancient and current timeframes.
My opinion is you should read book one, “Dead Sea Rising (DSR),” before reading “Dead Sea Conspiracy (DSC)” because it clarifies characters and storyline in both timeframes (ancient and current).
DSC is fast paced and rich with details about archaeology, although it is written in such a way it will be easy and enjoyable to follow along. At the end of book one (DSR) the timeframe bounce was a mystery, but will be clarified in this book. This book has mystery, intrigue, and you will find it difficult to put this book down.
My 4 star rating versus 5 stars is due to plausibility questions I had about a murder, a suicide, and technology hampering. Also, I admired the strength of the character Dr. Nicole Berman in book one but felt that fell short in this book.
That being said, these books are both enjoyable reads, and I recommend them.
Note: I was provided a complimentary copy of this book with no expectations but that I provide an honest review – all thoughts and opinions are my own.
“When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went down to the region of Judea east of the Jordan River. Large crowds followed him there, and he healed their sick.” Matthew 19:1-2 NLT
My Thoughts:
Jesus just gave us that profound lesson on forgiveness (https://tinyurl.com/3a995ny6) then he leaves Galilee to go to the region of Judea east of the Jordan River.
This was gritty traveling. They were on foot and the journey took multiple days, while sleeping under the stars. There were no public restrooms, no fast-food restaurants, or B&B’s. Yet crowds followed Him and most* embraced and relished his teachings. While on the journey Jesus mercifully healed their sick.
“At sunset, the people brought to Jesus all who had various kinds of sickness, and laying his hands on each one, he healed them.” Luke 4:40 NIV
*Even though Jesus had followers on this journey there were men in the crowds who didn’t embrace his teachings. There were religious leaders and spies listening to His every word. However, their goal was not to gain understanding or healing, they were looking for ways to trick and trap Jesus to reduce His popularity and make Him look bad to the crowds.
In this blog we are going to ignore these troublemakers for now and focus on those who were following Jesus for answers and healing.
I am a follower of Jesus who is constantly looking for direction, seeking answers, and I want to trust Jesus with everything. (Shoot, I also want to freely mingle in crowds again without Covid worries! 🙄)
I want to hear all the blessings and teachings even when they cause me to squirm because I want to change for the better. I want His words and promises to permeate my soul while my faith and trust stay intact and strong especially in challenging times. I want to be fearless and follow Jesus wherever He takes me even when I can’t see where the road is leading me.
But I’ve been struggling, and I feel lost. What I want and what I am doing do not match up.
These past two years have challenged me physically, mentally, and spiritually. I have lost my ‘normal’ routines, I’ve had to deal with death, cancer invaded my husband’s body, and the added isolation, while necessary, has been brutal. There have been times where it feels like I am deep in the valley while Jesus is high and out of my reach.
However, what God says is He never leaves us, no matter what we “feel” is happening as we follow Him:
“Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you.” Deuteronomy 31:8 NLT
He also says:
“Surely goodness and mercy and unfailing love shall follow me all the days of my life. Psalms 23:6a AMP (highlights made by me)
God knows I’m scattered right now so He hems me in, surrounding me in His love. No matter which direction I turn, I will land directly into His loving arms once I take a step.
He also knows my heart and despite my discombobulation, He knows that I love Him. Therefore, He has closed the gap by encircling me in His presence, in goodness, mercy, and love.
I. Love. That. I need that!
During these tough times God warns us:
“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Look straight ahead, and fix your eyes on what lies before you. Mark out a straight path for your feet; stay on the safe path. Don’t get sidetracked; keep your feet from following evil.” Proverbs 4:23, 25-27 NLT
He also keeps the path lit with His words even in the darkness:
“Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.” Psalms 119:105 NLT
God doesn’t say “stop it” or “be a big girl, Cecilia,” He says while I am walking through this valley, He is with me, but He also warns me to stay on my guard because:
“Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8 NLT
On those days or moments when I am struggling through the muck and mire in this valley, Jesus isn’t the only one hanging around. Evil wants to keep me in the valley and fill my thoughts with doubts, fears, and highlight my weaknesses.
But God, reminds me to lift my head above the noise so I can hear Him, and to keep walking forward and follow Him. This is critical because my feelings are irrelevant and unreliable and can trick me into falling for the lies of the evil one. However, God has never been more relevant, present, or trustworthy, especially in my times of need!
“Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28 NLT
Come to me Jesus gently calls. He never forces Himself on us, but just like those who freely followed Him, who received healing from heavy burdens, they were finally able to rest. Now that’s a compelling promise, wouldn’t you say?
“Avail yourself of every spiritual strength and blessing. Heaven knows, we need the help. God is here to give it.” Max Lucado “Begin Again”
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Prayer: Father God, oh how I love You! Thank you for the Bible that leads us through everything we face in life through your Word. I pray we all make the commitment to follow You, find Christian friends and mentors, and get ourselves in a Bible believing and teaching church to guide us on the journey. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen.
Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?”
“No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!
“Therefore, the Kingdom of Heaven can be compared to a king who decided to bring his accounts up to date with servants who had borrowed money from him. In the process, one of his debtors was brought in who owed him millions of dollars. He couldn’t pay, so his master ordered that he be sold—along with his wife, his children, and everything he owned—to pay the debt.
“But the man fell down before his master and begged him, ‘Please, be patient with me, and I will pay it all.’ Then his master was filled with pity for him, and he released him and forgave his debt.
“But when the man left the king, he went to a fellow servant who owed him a few thousand dollars. He grabbed him by the throat and demanded instant payment. “His fellow servant fell down before him and begged for a little more time. ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it,’ he pleaded. But his creditor wouldn’t wait. He had the man arrested and put in prison until the debt could be paid in full.
“When some of the other servants saw this, they were very upset. They went to the king and told him everything that had happened. Then the king called in the man he had forgiven and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?’ Then the angry king sent the man to prison to be tortured until he had paid his entire debt.
“That’s what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart.” Matthew 18:21-35 NLT
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My Thoughts:
Lord, please guide my words and let me communicate your truth and love and add nothing that will bring harm to anyone who is struggling with forgiveness. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.
One of my favorite sayings goes something like this: Forgiveness is a choice and it’s a gift we give to ourselves. We forgive not because they deserve it, but because we deserve it. (credit unknown)
STOP! Before you close this blog thinking it’s another wasted effort on the benefit of forgiveness, please let me explain something about forgiveness:
When we forgive:
we do not forfeit the pain, the hurt, or pretend it didn’t happen, nor do we have to give our trust back to an individual.
we must remember forgiveness is not association. In other words, we do not have to reconcile a relationship when we forgive, especially if the offender is an abuser or a repeat offender.
we can leave first and forgive next. Sometimes we must stay away for safety.
we should not delay forgiveness until an offender’s behavior changes, because changes may never happen. If that is your situation, see #3.
even if an abuser repents or stops their injurious behavior, it may be sensible to use caution around them and/or choose not to associate with that person. This is especially true if reconciliation could endanger you or a family member if there is a relapse.
Sometimes the only solution in a dangerous situation is to leave first, then work on healing and forgiveness when you are safe.
A personal example and a clear warning: As a child (7 years old), my mother chose to leave my father, an abusive alcoholic, as it was clear he had no intentions of changing his behavior. Eventually we were finally safe when she fled, but we did not get professional help so we could all learn to heal through forgiveness.
“Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.”Hebrews 12:15 NLT
Skipping that step caused damage to my heart and negatively impacted my life. Like the servant in the parable, I was a tortured prisoner…, tortured by myself, my own fears, and bitterness. Eventually, I did choose forgiveness and my heart healed but not until I was 44 years old. Horrible truth. I pray if you and your family are in a comparable situation you learn and embrace forgiveness by attending a good Bible believing and teaching church and by seeking the help of a sound Christian Counselor.
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Today I am picking up where I left off writing from the book of Matthew. Naturally, the Lord gave me a tough topic but I’m relying heavily on Him to guide me. If there are errors, they are mine and not the Lord’s.
The verses we read today seem like two different stories, but they are not. It’s one story and it is all about choosing to forgive…, or not.
When we look at Peter’s question to Jesus in our opening verse, we see he might have developed an issue with someone about forgiveness. In fact, he has already pre-determined the number of times we should offer forgiveness (seven times), which might have coincided with the number of times Peter had already forgiven that person!
But Jesus takes Peter (and us) by surprise and not only rebukes Peter’s answer but tells him he is to forgive multiple times. My Bible commentary suggest that Jesus was implying our forgiveness should be endless.
Then Jesus launches into a parable.
So, what is a parable?
Definition – usually a short fictitious story that illustrates a moral attitude or a religious principle; provides an instructive example or lesson.
Jesus talks about a king who decided to audit his financial accounts. He notices he has one servant who owed him large sums of money and he demands repayment. The servant tells the king he has no way to pay the debt, so the king orders the servant, his family, and all assets sold to settle the account.
The servant, stricken with fear, begs for more time to repay the debt. His plea must have been heart rendering, because the king takes pity on the servant and instead of giving him more time to repay, he does something amazing; he forgives his enormous debt. WOW!
Immediately leaving the king’s presence, the servant does not collapse to his knees in relief and shout hallelujah’s telling everyone about the king’s magnificent mercy. Instead, he does just the opposite and is cruel to another man who is indebted to him.
We receive no explanation why the servant does this, however, we learn when the king hears about the servant’s cruelty, he immediately retracted his gift, threw him in prison, with instructions to torture the servant until his enormous debt was paid in full.
Finally, Jesus ends the parable with a warning to Peter that this (imprisonment and torture) is what will happen to him should he choose to withhold forgiveness. Then Jesus adds to the warning: it must be true forgiveness from the heart.
“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” Psalm 19:14 NLT
As I stated earlier, I struggled with forgiveness from the time we escaped from our abusive situation, until I was 44 years old. My heart was ridiculously hard where my father was concerned. My justification for my anger and unforgiveness was the long-term impact his poor behavior had on our family. I openly hated him and took a hard stance to never forgive him for what we endured.
Let me be candid about that choice: that decision didn’t harm him, he went merrily along with his life, but it made a mess of mine! It created a deep and wide chasm of anger, bitterness, and serious trust issues. My commitment to that decision was so strong, I carried it way past my father’s death (he died when I was in my early twenties). I put myself in prison and tortured myself waiting for an amendment that never came from him when he was alive and certainly wasn’t going to happen after he died.
Then one day Jesus extended an unbelievable and very personal act of mercy to me through a pastor’s message. He said:
If you are listening to me today and you are the victim of abuse by a parent, I have a special message for you:
I am so sorry.
I fell to pieces, y’all. Until that very moment, I didn’t realize the amendment I was seeking was an apology. Suddenly, the chains around my heart broke free and I became a free woman with those four words. The healing process began, and the self-torture ended.
Jesus knew I was seeking something I couldn’t even put into words, so He handed me that gift because he knew the depths of my heart. That day, I surrendered my heart and my hurt to Jesus. When I did that (not just spoken words but a surrender from my heart) He took my unforgiveness, my past, present, and future sins and forgave my enormous debt. What I received that day was something much better than anything my own biological father could have ever given me.
You may be thinking, “So why do horrible things happen to good people?” The answer is as hard as it is easy; free will. God gave us an enormous and powerful gift; He gave us free will to make our own choices and decisions. Sometimes we make the right choices; however, sometimes we make bad choices and when we do, we hurt others. (We are all guilty.)
While it may be tempting to take revenge, there is no healing in revenge, only more pain and suffering. God tells us:
“Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord.” Romans 12:19 NLT
My father lived recklessly for years, but eventually he died a terrible and painful death from the effects of cirrhosis of the liver at the age of forty-nine. However, it wasn’t his death that brought me peace, it was forgiving him.
Truth Bomb: When I refused to forgive him; I kept the offense alive and repeated his behavior of hate, and I hurt innocent victims.
Forgiveness is something you must choose to do, whether you feel like it or not. When I finally realized what I was doing to myself and others, my choice to forgive my father was not a “once and done” thing. I had to choose to forgive him multiple times, but you know what happened? Eventually, my feelings got in line with my choice, and I can say I finally truly forgave my father, from my heart, for what he did to me and my family.
A big lesson I learned from my own personal experience is that I am not without sin or in need of forgiveness—from God and others. No, I didn’t abuse anyone physically, but I can cut you down at the knees with my words. I speak this truth in shame. I have had to apologize for my own bad choices more than once. But just like that king in our parable, Jesus had mercy on me, because He wanted to forgive my huge debts (sins).
“Create in me a clean heart, O God.” Psalm 51:10a
When I shed the past pain and my sins to Jesus, the Lord went right to work on my heart!
“And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.” Ezekiel 36:26 NLT
Make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you [Cecilia], so you must forgive others.”
I have one last word of repeat advice to parents who have escaped an abusive situation: get Christian professional help for yourself and your child(ren) because leaving is not enough! You must address the abuse for the health and well-being of yourself, and your child(ren). Had my mother known to do this, it would have been a blessing for her, me, and my siblings. We would not have grown up with so many misunderstandings, bitterness, and pain. A Christian counselor would have used the Word of God to heal our internal and unseen wounds.
Remember, forgiveness doesn’t happen overnight, so give yourself grace on the journey, but don’t give up (seventy times seven–Matthew 18:22).
As a reminder, your past cannot change, but you can change yourself with the help of Jesus.
“God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God.” Ephesians 2:8
To be unforgiving is a dangerous choice to make because Jesus says:
“But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:15 NLT
Is that a burden you think you can carry alone?
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Closing Prayer: Jesus, thank You for never giving up on me despite my hardened heart. Thank You for never stop whispering to me even when I wouldn’t listen. Thank You when I finally was so exhausted from the battle, I truly listened to Your words, and they captured my heart. Thank You for loving me, Jesus, even when I was the most unlovable. Your love and mercy continue to astound me every day. In the name of Jesus, I thank You for Your mercies, and I also pray I gave justice to Your words today. Amen.
“The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” Deuteronomy 31:8 NIV
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6
“Instead, let us test and examine our ways. Let us turn back to the Lord.” Lamentations 3:40 NLT
“So here’s what I think: The best thing you can do right now is to finish what you started last year and not let those good intentions grow stale. Your heart’s been in the right place all along. You’ve got what it takes to finish it up, so go to it. Once the commitment is clear, you do what you can, not what you can’t. The heart regulates the hands.” 2 Corinthians 8:10-12 MSG
My Thoughts:
CANCER UPDATE
December 2021
I am very tardy about giving an update on my husband’s cancer. Thank you for your patience.
Short answer: Danny’s last chemo was 11/12/2021 and he had a CT scan soon afterwards. The scan was clear, and his blood work was good, not perfect, but good. We cried tears of joy and praised the LORD. He needed that good news and a break from chemo, and frankly, so did I. We absolutely cherished our end of year holidays.
Clouds: The one thing I’ve learned about cancer is it often has ‘clouds’ which prevent clear answers to questions. For instance, throughout the chemo process there was a cancer marker from the blood tests that was consistently higher—rather than lower—after each treatment. That marker often implies that cancer is still lurking/spreading somewhere. Although comforted by the knowledge this marker for colon cancer can become skewed with treatment, it is still unsettling. Our hearts were hoping to get clear results that ‘he is 100% healed’ with no clouds to unsettle us.
Faith and Trust: Instead, the Lord asked us to continue to lean into Him with our faith and trust as we wait for repeat and additional testing this spring. With the wonderful blessings we have had on this journey, I’d like to say we responded with a confident, “Certainly LORD! No problem!” 😬 Really, it is mostly true, but there have been times when we have had conversations about the “what if” scenario. In the end, we made the decision to stand in God’s truth and not wallow in fear. We are moving forward in confidence that he has full healing and making plans for our future!
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV
“The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” Deuteronomy 31:8 NIV
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6
Amen.
MY ONE WORD
Since 2015 each year I pray for a word from the Lord to guide my new year. I don’t usually ask until I’m ready for an answer because (so far) He gives the word to me right away. I can’t say I’m always pleased with the choices. However, the words I have received—although challenging—have all been appropriate, life applicable, and a blessing.
For instance, last year my word was ‘steadfast’ and the primary verse that I clung to (among others) was:
They will have no fear of bad news; their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the Lord.” Psalms 112:7 NIV
This word and verse have been more than applicable for a year that included cancer. Our blessing and promise for the year 2021 lie in this verse, in Proverbs 3:5-6, and in Deuteronomy 31:8. ❤️
For 2022 I received an odd word. Odd because no matter what version of the Bible I researched there were no supporting verses because that word is not in the Bible. Therefore, I decided it wasn’t my word and kept praying, yet my heart kept turning back to this word:
Redirect.
I am familiar with this word as I received five instructions from a wise Bible teacher years ago to use as a guide for making sound decisions. In fact, I’ve used these steps for guidance multiple times:
What does the Bible say about it?
What would be the wise thing to do?
What does my conscience say about it?
What are my personal desires?
Am I ready to redirect at any time?
Hmm….
The dictionary also had insightful things to say about this word, but I liked this one:
Redirect – to change the course or direction of (something); turn back.
Again, I didn’t find verses that specifically used the word ‘redirect,’ but I chose these two as being most applicable when I accepted redirect as my word for 2022:
“Instead, let us test and examine our ways. Let us turn back to the Lord.” Lamentations 3:40 NLT
“So here’s what I think: The best thing you can do right now is to finish what you started last year and not let those good intentions grow stale. Your heart’s been in the right place all along. You’ve got what it takes to finish it up, so go to it. Once the commitment is clear, you do what you can, not what you can’t. The heart regulates the hands. 2 Corinthians 8:10-12 MSG
(Underlining of words in these verses was mine.)
I didn’t exactly turn away from the Lord, but I did turn my back on a calling last year. Is it possible the Lord is asking me to examine myself and turn back (redirect my actions) to what He called me to do?
Is He asking me to redirect my thinking and stop worrying about what I can’t do and instead focus on what I can do?
The last words in verse 10 of 2 Corinthians say, “The heart regulates the hands.” My heart belongs to Jesus, and my hands used to write, guided by my heart. Is He asking me to redirect my heart and hands from writing things that had good intentions (keeping up with tasks during our difficult season) to the right intentions (to return to writing what He called me to write)?
Finally, twice He says “finish.” This speaks volumes and I must ask myself, am I arrogant enough to ignore this redirection to stop what I’m doing and finish what He called me to do?
Although tough questions, I can certainly use them to redirect my new year.
Additionally, as a friend reminded me: 365 New Mercies!
Before I wrap this up, I’d like to give you my answers to the five questions I mentioned earlier:
What does the Bible say about it? – “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” Romans 12:2 NLT
What would be the wise thing to do? – Be obedient! “But Samuel replied, “What is more pleasing to the Lord: your burnt offerings and sacrifices or your obedience to his voice? Listen! Obedience is better than sacrifice, and submission is better than offering the fat of rams.” 1 Samuel 15:22 NLT
What does my conscience say about it? – Turn back! Partial obedience is full disobedience!
What are my personal desires? – To finish what I started and to know God’s pleasure. “Well done my good and faithful servant.” Matthew 25:23 NLT
Am I ready to redirect at any time? – Yes, but I need you, Lord. “Bend down, O Lord, and hear my prayer; answer me, for I need your help” [to redirect.] Psalms 86:1 NLT
Amen!
My Prayer: Father God, I continue to ask full healing for Danny and guidance in this new year for both of us. Protect us from all viruses when we venture outside our home. For all upcoming medical procedures and appointments, we ask for wisdom, guidance, and compassion from all medical professionals and their staff. Lastly Lord, I ask You to firmly redirect my thoughts and actions from good intentions to the right intentions, all the way to the finish line. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.